Not A Lecture

Oh Bristol.  I’m so sorry to hear that you’re pregnant when you clearly don’t want to be. Parenthood is hard enough under the best of circumstances—I can’t imagine the despair you must feel doing it without a supportive partner or the warm embrace of your family. 

You said you didn’t want any lectures, and I don’t blame you. So consider this some helpful advice instead: Birth control. There are lots of methods and with a little effort you can find one that works for your body and life. Abstinence is a method you’ve spoken about often and passionately, and it is the only 100% effective method out there…but obviously it isn’t the best fit for you. There is no shame in that and luckily there are other options. Might I suggest Bedsider.org as place to start? 

Back in the day, when you were the most famous teen mom in America (pre-MTV’s 16 and Pregnant, obviously), I thought you were brave for speaking out about your experience and encouraging other teens to choose a different path than you had taken. I was also sympathetic because it couldn’t have been easy to be in your mom’s glaring spotlight during such a difficult time. But a lot has changed since then. 

For one, you’ve grown up. You’re 24 years old now with a 6 year old son. You’ve danced with the stars, had plastic surgery, been engaged a few times, bought and sold real estate, written a book, and had your own reality show. Certainly you can work with a health care provider to find a birth control method that works for you. That’s what responsible adults do. I get that teens feel the need to hide things like sex and birth control from their parents, but you aren’t a kid anymore.

I wish you and your family the best during this trying time. And just like in 2008, I hope your story serves as cautionary tale to other young women. 

P.S.  Despite what you may read online, Bristol Palin has never been affiliated with The National Campaign in any way. Certainly we’ve talked about her over the years, but she has never been employed here nor has she ever served as a spokesperson for this organization.

Authored by: Amy Kramer

Amy Kramer is the Senior Director of Entertainment Media at The National Campaign. She came to the Campaign in 2007 after more than fifteen years as a television news producer and communications consultant.

Amy’s role at the Campaign is to advance the organization’s mission by working with media executives, writers, producers, social media experts, and others to help them incorporate teen and unplanned pregnancy prevention messages into the content of their work.  She has served as the lead content expert for MTV’s 16 and Pregnant and Teen Mom since the shows launched in 2009 and has spoken widely in the press, on television, and at conferences about the shows’ impact on teen pregnancy.  She has also written and analyzed surveys about sex, relationships, and contraception for Seventeen and Cosmopolitan magazines. In addition, she consults with many other television programs, magazines and websites, writes discussion guides and blog posts for media partners’ web properties, works with outside experts on the media goals of the Campaign, and oversees the Campaign’s nationally recognized Entertainment Media program and staff.  

Prior to joining the Campaign, Amy was a producer at ABC, CNN, and CNBC. She began her career at the political Hotline, a daily news wire service covering national politics, and then started in television as a political researcher for CBS News. As a communications consultant she worked with corporations and foundations on issues such as drug abuse, education, health care, aging, and employee/employer relations. She has moderated focus groups, written surveys, and provided analysis and direction on public opinion related to these topics. She has also worked as a political campaign press aide and a summer camp waterski instructor. Amy graduated magna cum laude from Lehigh University with degrees in government and journalism. She lives in Maryland with her husband and dog.

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Perfect. Truthful and respectful. Bravo

Amy Kramer You're my hero!!